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@ -8,7 +8,7 @@ So I recently got into watching slice-of-life anime, and was hunting around onli
That's not to say it's a bad anime, or even that they didn't title it right. The anime is not the focus of this article. This irrational feeling I just had, of feeling like an unwelcome intruder in a setting which is supposed to be welcome, is. It's what I call the "fear of having missed out". That's not to say it's a bad anime, or even that they didn't title it right. The anime is not the focus of this article. This irrational feeling I just had, of feeling like an unwelcome intruder in a setting which is supposed to be welcome, is. It's what I call the "fear of having missed out".
It sounds very similar to the common term FOMO, "fear of missing out", a peer-pressure-like anxiety people get to try something new (let's say a new game X) just because their other people are doing it and having fun. The fear of having missed out (FOHMO?) evokes a similar feeling, but has completely the opposite effect. When I feel this feeling, I feel like there was a window of opportunity, where all these people started enjoying X, and I missed that window and now I'm too late. Now, if I start trying to get into X, I feel like I'll feel continuously excluded by the people who *are* enjoying X, and end up not having fun myself. So, I don't even bother to try X, because of the fear that I have already missed out on it. It sounds very similar to the common term FOMO, "fear of missing out", a peer-pressure-like anxiety people get to try something new -- let's say, a new game called X -- just because their other people are playing X and having fun doing so. The fear of having missed out (FOHMO?) evokes a similar feeling, but has completely the opposite effect. When I feel this feeling, I feel like there was a window of opportunity, where all these people started enjoying X, and I missed that window and now I'm too late. Now, if I start trying to get into X, I feel like I'll feel continuously excluded by the people who *are* enjoying X, and end up not having fun myself. So, I don't even bother to try X, because of the fear that I have already missed out on it.
And it's not just watching new anime that make me feel like this. I feel the same when joining new clubs at university, trying new software with large, established communities (like `vim` or `emacs`), and playing new video games (like *Animal Crossing: New Horizons* or *League of Legends*). I feel like as a newcomer, I will always be a burden on the community; the worst player in the team, the one who's always posting help threads without contributing back, or the one who doesn't get any of the inside jokes. And it's not just watching new anime that make me feel like this. I feel the same when joining new clubs at university, trying new software with large, established communities (like `vim` or `emacs`), and playing new video games (like *Animal Crossing: New Horizons* or *League of Legends*). I feel like as a newcomer, I will always be a burden on the community; the worst player in the team, the one who's always posting help threads without contributing back, or the one who doesn't get any of the inside jokes.